A year ago on my birthday, I didn't feel like celebrating.
I honestly didn't.
Every year for my birthday wish, for the past few years, I've wanted to be pregnant.
I've wanted to be a mom.
I've wanted.......
This year feels different.
This year I can embrace being 30, knowing that we are at the beginning at something I've only dreamed of.
May Wishes Come True this Year.
- Heather
Friday, September 27, 2013
Thursday, September 5, 2013
ADOPTION 20 Questions!
20 Questions:
Adoption Study Questionnaire Questions:
1. What is your motivation for adopting a child
2. How is your extended family reacting to your adoption plan
3. What type of child do you feel you can parent (Be specific regarding age, race, ethnicity, and medical problems)
4. What strengths and background do you have which would be helpful in parenting an adoptive child
5. Describe your parenting attitude, experiences, and skills. Include such areas as discipline, nurturing, and family relationships
6. How do you see your parenting of your children differing from or similar to that which you received
7. How do you feel about your childhood and relationship with your parents
8. Describe your parents. Which one have you been closest to in childhood and as an adult
9. What is your current relationship with your extended family members
10. Describe the support network and quality of meaningful relationships
11. Describe your personality. What are our strengths and weaknesses. Are there aspects of yourself you would like to change ?
12. How do you express joy, sadness, anger, and frustration?
13. What losses have you experienced in your life and how have you dealt with them
14. What are your coping skills and how do you relieve stress
15. What values and beliefs are important in your life. Describe your attitudes about religion
16. Describe your spouse/partner's childhood and current relationship to his or her family of origin
17. Describe your spouse's including his/her strengths and weaknesses
18. What are the strengths of your marriage/relationship? How do you and your spouse communicate and express feelings to one another
19. How do you and your spouse handle conflict and disagreements? What are areas of conflict?
20. What resources can you offer a child outside of your ethnic/racial/cultural experience.
Adoption Study Questionnaire Questions:
1. What is your motivation for adopting a child
2. How is your extended family reacting to your adoption plan
3. What type of child do you feel you can parent (Be specific regarding age, race, ethnicity, and medical problems)
4. What strengths and background do you have which would be helpful in parenting an adoptive child
5. Describe your parenting attitude, experiences, and skills. Include such areas as discipline, nurturing, and family relationships
6. How do you see your parenting of your children differing from or similar to that which you received
7. How do you feel about your childhood and relationship with your parents
8. Describe your parents. Which one have you been closest to in childhood and as an adult
9. What is your current relationship with your extended family members
10. Describe the support network and quality of meaningful relationships
11. Describe your personality. What are our strengths and weaknesses. Are there aspects of yourself you would like to change ?
12. How do you express joy, sadness, anger, and frustration?
13. What losses have you experienced in your life and how have you dealt with them
14. What are your coping skills and how do you relieve stress
15. What values and beliefs are important in your life. Describe your attitudes about religion
16. Describe your spouse/partner's childhood and current relationship to his or her family of origin
17. Describe your spouse's including his/her strengths and weaknesses
18. What are the strengths of your marriage/relationship? How do you and your spouse communicate and express feelings to one another
19. How do you and your spouse handle conflict and disagreements? What are areas of conflict?
20. What resources can you offer a child outside of your ethnic/racial/cultural experience.
Sunday, September 1, 2013
Surreal
It continues to feel surreal that this might actually be happening.
At times, I try to not feel frustrated. I try to feel blessed with this opportunity to adopt.
It's easy for the mind to create fear, doubt, and uneasiness.
It's easy for the mind to say, this would be easier if you were just able to get pregnant.
It doesn't seem like that is my calling, at least not for now. Nothing amazing has ever happened just by chance; it always takes work and determination.
Have you ever had the feeling like you were meant to do something more? Do something different than most people? Experience something so incredible and profound like a complete stranger picking you to parent their child?
I'm excitedly ready to wrap my head around this idea.
I wish I could show this visibly.
Pregnant women get pregnant. Everyone knows.
Adoptive mom's get... ?. I am not saying this is bad that the whole world won't know. However, there seems to be something magical that goes along with being pregnant that I cannot even grasp.
This however, is not about that.
This is a blog of hope and inspiration.
hopefully, Heather
At times, I try to not feel frustrated. I try to feel blessed with this opportunity to adopt.
It's easy for the mind to create fear, doubt, and uneasiness.
It's easy for the mind to say, this would be easier if you were just able to get pregnant.
It doesn't seem like that is my calling, at least not for now. Nothing amazing has ever happened just by chance; it always takes work and determination.
Have you ever had the feeling like you were meant to do something more? Do something different than most people? Experience something so incredible and profound like a complete stranger picking you to parent their child?
I'm excitedly ready to wrap my head around this idea.
I wish I could show this visibly.
Pregnant women get pregnant. Everyone knows.
Adoptive mom's get... ?. I am not saying this is bad that the whole world won't know. However, there seems to be something magical that goes along with being pregnant that I cannot even grasp.
This however, is not about that.
This is a blog of hope and inspiration.
hopefully, Heather
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